Every big organization has them. They hide in plain sight, often with great credentials, a privileged education & a normal life. You may even be impressed.
Interviewers are easily fooled: outsized confidence, intensity & mental toughness can often lead HR managers to think they’ve found a strong leader.
Then you start to work with them & out comes the devil. They do things to throw you off your game, embarrass or offend others, take credit for your work & star in their own fantasies of grandeur & success.
But a few pumps to the ego & they show you who they really are. You see the cracks in the bullying & big talk. You become calm because you know they won’t last. He’s a “tough boss” or “tough client” doesn’t necessarily mean sociopath.
Signs you are working with/for a psycho:
- Exceptional charm
- Confiding way too quickly
- Lies, lies, lies
- Devious & deceptive
- Super confident
- No compassion
- Slow, quiet talking
- Adrenaline junkies
- Can’t be bored
- Fake emotions
NOTE: I’ve recently been faced with working with a model psychopath (don’t worry, not on our own team.)
Anyone encounter this before & how did you survive the relationship?